“Manners are the glue of society.'“ - Cosmo Kramer
One of the biggest turnoffs you’ll experience in life is a person who doesn’t say “thank you.” You may think it’s petty or emotional to focus on this (and Jerry Seinfeld would agree), but hear me out. The person who fails to show gratitude for an act of goodwill is deeply flawed, and this failure to express thanks is a major red flag.
I cannot emphasize enough the importance of gratitude. Studies have shown that expressing gratitude improves mental, physical and relational well-being. Being grateful also enhances the overall feeling of happiness, and these effects are usually long-lasting.
People who neglect to express thanks not only reveal a lack of awareness but also expose their own maturity levels. It's a behavior I can occasionally overlook, attributing it to their growth journey. However, at its core, this oversight often reflects a self-centered worldview, an inflated ego, and a stark lack of gratitude.
Real Examples
For instance, consider a colleague who assists you with a challenging project at work, offering invaluable insights that lead to its success. Failing to acknowledge their contribution not only diminishes their effort but also reflects poorly on your character. Plus, they’re much less likely to offer help in the future. You’ve just made an adversary out of an ally.
Or, imagine a scenario where a friend goes out of their way to support you during tough times, offering a listening ear or a helping hand. Failing to acknowledge their kindness signals a disconnect from the fundamental human trait of empathy. I’m not saying you should buy them a $150 bottle of champagne; all that’s required is a heartfelt “thank you” to show them you recognize the effort they put into helping you turn things around.
No Big Deal?
Some may argue that forgetting to say 'thank you' is a minor oversight and that individuals deserve leniency. However, consistently failing to recognize others' contributions suggests a deeper issue—a narrative crafted by the individual where they are the sole architect of their successes, sidelining those who have aided them.
Associating with grounded individuals, who recognize and appreciate the support they receive, is not only fulfilling but also vital for personal growth. The act of helping and being helped is a core aspect of our humanity. If you find yourself unable to acknowledge when someone has been beneficial to you, it may be time to reassess your worldview.
Moreover, recognizing someone's help but deeming it unworthy of a simple 'thank you' unveils a lack of empathy and, possibly, deep-seated selfishness. In essence, the act of expressing gratitude is a profound indicator of one's character and intentions."
By enhancing your awareness and appreciation for the kindness of others, you enrich not only your own life but also the lives of those around you. Plus, you become way more likeable to others. Let's strive to be men of gratitude, recognizing and valuing the support we receive. This shift in perspective can transform not just personal relationships but also how we navigate the world.
-Your Big Bro
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